2 Reasons Why Sociopaths and Narcissists Always Blame Us to Be The Bad Ones

By Nadica | Lifestyle

Sep 28

In life, at least once, all of us have been in a bad relationship. And, some of us were in a relationship with a sociopath or a narcissist. These people are those who made us believe that we were the bad ones.

That we were not enough and that there was something wrong with us. It is always infuriating when a person tries to use psychology against you.

Do you know the difference between a sociopath and a narcissist and their trademark personality traits?

Personality Disorder of a Narcissist:

  • Preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited brilliance, power, beauty, love, and success
  • Great sense of self-importance – usually exaggerates achievements
  • Lacks empathy
  • Needs to have excessive admiration all the time
  • Firmly believes he/she is special
  • Thinks others are envious of him/her and he/she is jealous of others
  • Sense of entitlement
  • Is arrogant

Personality Disorder of Sociopaths

  • Sociopaths have all the traits of narcissist and more:
  • Impulsivity
  • Aggressiveness and irritability, as shown by repeated physical assaults and fights
  • Deceitfulness
  • Inability to conform to social norms
  • Consistent irresponsibility, as demonstrated by the failure to honor financial commitments or sustain consistent behavior at work
  • Lack of remorse

In case you can identify any of these behaviors in a friend, partner or family member, then you should know that you are dealing with a sociopath or a narcissist. If in such a situation, most likely you wondered if it is because of you or them.

After you think with a clear heart and cold head, you will realize that it is not you. And that is all you need to know.

So, you must wonder why do these people need to convince you that you are the one with the issues and that you are the one who is crazy?

Why Do Sociopaths and Narcissists Convince You to Be the Crazy One

#1 Due to Their Superiority Complex

You should know that they have a superiority complex and due to them they find it impossible to accept faults within themselves. You see, these people think they’re faultless and that they cannot do any wrong.

No matter who many times you talk to them about their behavior and the different ways it impacts you, they will still turn things around and say that is your fault and not theirs.

This is a classic manipulation tactic that they have mastered over the years. For these people, everything is a competition. What does that mean?

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It means that if you try to talk to them about the similarities of the way they behave to a sociopathic and narcissistic profile, they shall do the same thing for you.

If you try to talk about the science behind things they do they will do the same thing to you.

They will use psychology to that point onto you that you will start to question yourself. “Am I the one with the issues? Am I the one to blame?” This is something that will continuously revolve in your mind.

The reality is that no one is perfect and that we all have flaws. However, if you are worrying over possibly being a sociopath or a narcissist, there are high chances you are not one.

Because a sociopath or a narcissist would never even think that of themselves.

#2 They Project

Projection is like a mirror; it is the reflection of what someone has inside themselves. Sociopaths and narcissist are always projecting their insecurities and issues on people around them.

So that is why they also include their psychosis. They will say that you are the one who is dishonest, who lacks empathy and is manipulative. What they describe are their behaviors.

It can be really annoying when someone does that to you. The thing is that you cannot fight or argue about it because you cannot change someone’s perception of you. When in such situation, just let go and move on.

Have you been in such situations where you had to confront such types of personalities?