Cheating is a topic which is widely discussed. The truth is, when it comes to that topic, some people approve of it, and most people don’t.
The cheaters and the people who are cheated on, view the whole situation differently. Regardless of how people view this act, admitting to your current partner that you were unfaithful in your previous relationship is a gamble.
The old saying “Once a cheater, always a cheater” can damage your reputation for an extended period.
And according to one study, there might be a fact behind that old saying. One specific study followed precisely 484 participants in different mixed gender romantic bonds.
The participants had reported on their involvement in love-making, that is sleeping with someone other than their romantic partner. Also, they had to report if they had suspected their partners are unfaithful in each romantic bond they had been in.
According to the results of the study, those people who have cheated in their first relationships were 3 times more likely to do it again in their next relationship. This is in comparison to those who have been faithful the whole time.
Those who were aware that their exes had cheated on them were twice as likely to have their next partner cheat on them as well. People who suspected that their partners cheated were 4 times more likely to also suspect in their next relationships.
Why does this happen? One explanation might be that fact that when we lie our brain actually gets used to the lies.
Yes, it is said that telling small white lies desensitizes the brain to the linked negative feelings, that might encourage us to tell even bigger lies in the future.
To be more precise those little white lies can quickly turn into bigger ones. You see, when someone cheats on their partner for the first time, it is most likely that they feel terrible.
But, if this happens one more time, they shall feel less bad, and this will continue in that way.
This might be all down to the biology of the brain, and what the amygdala (the part of the brain responsible for feelings) is making you feel.
The co-author of the study and also a researcher at the Princeton Neuroscience says that their study suggests that a potent factor which prevents all people from cheating is how we emotionally react to it, and how bad we feel.
The adaptation lowers the reaction, and that is why we cheat more. When it comes to serial cheaters, it is most likely that they initially felt bad the first time they cheated.
However, they have cheated so much that they have adapted to it and they do not feel bad about cheating anymore.
Also, there is one more possibility, and that is they never felt bad about cheating, so they didn’t have to go through any adaptation, they were comfortable from the start.
So, what do you think of this study? Those who have been cheated on or who have cheated, surely have different views on this topic. What do you think?