Why Are Over-Thinkers Hard to Love and Understand

By Gabriela | Love & Relationship

Sep 27
Why Are Over-Thinkers Hard to Love and Understand

We all know an overthinker. A person who is always overthinking things when in a relationship. Those who are in a relationship with an overthinker should know it is something they cannot control.

How is their mind functioning? Do you think you are one of them? Read on to find out.

You can send this person a simple text message, and they might overthink what that message really meant.

You can smile at them from the other side of the room, and they will think about why you did that. What that smile meant? Overthinkers spend too much time trying to understand others and the way their minds work.

This overthinking can make them hard to love. But that is not something they want to cause; they do not want drama. Why are they like that? They are just doing their best to protect themselves and their fragile heart.

They do not want to be that individual that gets blindsided in times when their partner is unfaithful. They overthink because they do not want to miss all the red flags and be caught off guard.

They want the truth and nothing but the truth, they know it might hurt, but still, they would rather face that then having to deal with lies. They are worried about the “what ifs,” and that is why they overthink when it comes to details.

You see, an overthinker will notice the change in your tone and they might think that your mad at them, without assuming that you had a long day at work.

They might think that you are hiding something from them and that you are planning something. They are sensitive that is for sure, but sensitive doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

You might make a bad joke, and they will overthink about it with days. You see, they are always ready for something to go wrong, they always assume the worst is about to happen.

Overthinkers are always on edge; they observe people around them in order to be prepared. Even if your relationship is completely fine, they will still make all scenarios of what might fall apart.

They believe that they might get ghosted, dumped or cheated on. They think about how they could have their heart broken and spend years and years trying to fix it.

They get scared when they experience too much happiness. They believe that something bad must happen as balance.

They have arguments inside their head. But they are the best partners when it comes to romantic relationships. Why? Because they are aware that they overthink things. They are sorry if they become silent after things go wrong.

They regret it if they overreact about something. They are sorry if their overthinking makes them hard to love and makes your relationship seem difficult.

Why are they doing this? Because they are trying to follow their head and not their heart. They do this because they have been hurt in the past and they are scared they have to go through the pain again.

They are scared they you are going to leave and break them apart. They might seem hard to love, but overthinkers do all of that because they love you. In time they shall know that it is safe around you and they will relax and let it go.

You see, having an overthinker as a partner is not difficult as long as you understand why are they doing certain things.

We hope this article helps you understand overthinkers and your partner more. Hug them, love them and hold them tight, because they are one-of-a-kind.

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